The one thing I realize and I know from personal experience that can change your life for better is to have more confidence in yourself. As Dalai Lama says it beautifully, “With realization of one’s own potential & self confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” Maybe you are not sure of yourself, or are terrified to ask the right questions, or just do not know how to go about it. Do not lose hope, just think big and know that you can achieve all that you put your mind to.
A few starting points for you.
- You are born confident – Ever noticed a newborn child he/she doesn’t; care a damn about the world. They are the center of their universe. They have this attitude look at me I am ready to take on the world. You are born with confidence and as you grow up it gets lost along the way. It is not something you have to search for outside of your self.
- Do a SWOT analysis – SWOT stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Learning who you are doesn’t happen overnight. Spend time with yourself. Start a journal, buy a notebook name it – My Me Book and try to write everyday five sentences about yourself. Make a list of things you enjoy, the kind of people you like to spend time with me, what are you good at, how would you like your life to be five years from now. Remember you are your most important asset so invest in yourself.
- Do not underestimate yourself. No one in the world knows everything. Everyone is good at some things and not so good at others. Don’t weigh your security against what you know or can do; weigh it against your willingness and capacity to learn. Accept yourself as someone who is a living miracle and focus on your good qualities. Know that whatever you work hard on and focus on will yield positive results. Most importantly stop saying negative things about yourself.
- Learn to receive praise. Align yourself to the human value of love. Learn to love and appreciate It’s amazing how often I see people finding it difficult to accept a compliment. Taking a compliment is an art. If someone says a nice thing about you. Look the person in the eye and say a polite thank you. That’s it do not go on a tangent of self – depreciating humor or saying something like I do not deserve this praise. Hello, yes you do.
Remember a line we all learnt in school. Practice makes a man perfect. So, practice, and practice and then practice some more. Keep working on yourself. When you meet new people, encounter new situations present yourself in a new light. Have a warm handshake, look people in the eye, speak clearly and have a good posture. The more you practice the better you will become. Remember Rome was not built in a day. Keep working on yourself and before you know it, you will be a more confident, self-assured individual.