The month of February is the month when we celebrate Valentine’s Day. In my mind it conjures up images of love and kindness. Of celebrating what is good and compassionate in the human heart. Compassion- the thread that connects us all and love the fuel that takes us forward in this journey of life and kindness that keeps everything running smoothly.
The impact these emotions have on our wellbeing are now well documented and backed by scientific research. Ever notice a whole realm of possibilities open to us and we connect to our happy space when someone pays us a compliment or unexpectedly helps us out with our work. When someone is kind to us we expand our desire to be kind and do a good deed. Why does that happen it is because we are all connected and reflect the mirror neurons of others. We start a chain of spreading cheer to family members, colleagues and friends. And learn one of the biggest lessons of life is that we bring joy and happiness into our lives when we share with others.
Great writer Herman Melville once said, “We cannot live for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellowmen; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.” We are all connected and social connections form an integral part of our happiness. Research shows……
There are so many ways we can show love, compassion and kindness to others. Here are some that you can use:
- Say sorry when you are wrong.
- Out of the blue do a kind act for your parents.
- Call or write to a teacher or mentor who changed your life.
- Say “Good morning” to a person standing next to you.
- When caught in traffic refrain from using the horn until absolutely necessary.
- Encourage someone who is struggling to find inspiration.
- Listen with all your senses, do not interrupt when someone is talking.
- Say please and thank you as often as you can.
- Make eye contact while talking to a person, individuals are more important than your mobile phone.
- Help an elderly person cross the road.
- Talk to the waiter nicely and leave a generous tip if he has done a good job.
- When someone asks how are you doing? Give a positive, energizing answer.
- Say I love you to the person you love the most.
- Smile more often and complain less.
- Bring a home cooked meal to work to share at office.
- Pass a great book that you have read.
- Spend some time volunteering for a cause that is close to your heart.
- While driving let another driver merge into your lane.
- At a toll pay for the person behind you.
- Focus on your good qualities, instead of pulling yourself down.
Each of us can make the choice to be more loving, kinder and compassionate throughout the day. These small kindnesses towards oneself, family members, strangers may not be noticed by anyone but in offering them we let the best of us flow through us and we will create a happier and loving world and that itself is its own reward.